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Turn Your Sorrow To Praise

Learn the Language of Lament

Mark Vroegop

Guest Contributor | Mar 14, 2023

The Bible commands believers to rejoice in all circumstances.

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus for you.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds…

James 1:2

It’s clear that Christians should not allow the pains of life to steal our joy in God. We should embrace the brokenness in the world with a hopeful confidence. That’s true and biblical.

But how do we get there?

I find that most Christians strongly believe a joyful response should characterize their suffering. But they don’t know how to reconcile their deep questions, honest struggles, and nagging doubts with the command to “give thanks in all circumstances.” The gap between their internal struggles and what they believe can feel like a canyon of a faith crisis.

The result is often two extremes. On the one hand, I’ve seen people fake their way through pain. They tell people, “I’m fine,” when nothing could be further from the truth. On the other hand, the enemy can use this struggle to cause them to doubt either the substance of their faith or even the legitimacy of Christianity.

Something’s missing.

The Language of Lament

Like a few pieces missing in a puzzle, adding the language of lament completes the picture.

This historic minor-key language creates a pathway to praise. It bridges the gap between a hard life and trusting in God’s sovereignty. Lament is a divinely-given liturgy for processing our pain so that we can rejoice.

Lament is a prayer in pain that leads to trust. It is not only how Christians grieve; it is the way Christians praise God through their sorrows. Lament is a pathway to praise when life gets hard.

The Psalms are full of laments. Over a third of the official song-book of God’s people uses this minor-key language to wrestle honestly with the complicated contours of pain. The journey, however, does more than struggle. Laments use the honest expression of grief in order to deepen our confidence in God’s grace.

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Lament is a pathway to praise when life gets hard.

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Most laments include four key elements. They are not always in a linear order since laments are poetic and musical expressions. But there is a pattern that can be practiced when “rejoicing always” feels far away. The elements of lament are:

  1. Turning to God in prayer
  2. Bringing our complaints
  3. Asking boldly
  4. Choosing to trust (or praise)

The Psalms, however, are not the only place where lament is sung. Throughout the history of God’s people, they’ve used this historic prayer language when dark clouds rolled in. The entire book of Lamentations mourns over the destruction of Jerusalem. And yet Jeremiah refuses to allow his heart to crumble.

I remember my affliction and my wandering
the bitterness and the gall.
I well remember them,
and my soul is downcast within me.
Yet this I call to mind
and therefore I have hope:

Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.

Lamentations 3:19-22

Lament enters the complicated space of deep disappointment and lingering hurt. And it boldly reaffirms the trustworthiness of God. It’s a helpful and life-giving language that transforms our pains into platforms of praise instead of pits of despair.

Learning to Lament

Unfortunately, I don’t know many contemporary Christians who know how to lament. Our celebratory singing, while not wrong, doesn’t usually lead us through our sorrows. It just drowns out the struggles with invitations to rejoice. But embracing joy without wrestling with tough questions can feel incomplete—even fake.

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We need to learn how to lament to turn our sorrow to joy.

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We need to learn how to lament to turn our sorrow to joy. Let me briefly highlight the four elements of lament so that the next time grief enters your world, you’ll know how to walk the path toward trusting praise.

1. Turn to God

Unfortunately, pain creates a strong temptation to give God the silent treatment. Confusion, exhaustion and disappointment can cause us to retreat from the One who knows our sorrows. Even worse, we can allow the poisonous mist of bitterness or anger to sweep in, creating a fog of unbelief.

Lament talks to God about our pain even if it’s messy. It takes faith to lament. Silence is easier but unhealthy. Lament draws upon what we believe, and it talks to God as we walk through hardship. Consider the gut-level honesty of Psalm 77.

I cried out to God for help;
I cried out to God to hear me.
When I was in distress, I sought the Lord;
at night I stretched out untiring hands,
and I would not be comforted.
I remembered you, God, and I groaned.
I meditated, and my spirit grew faint.

psalm 77:1-3

Even though comfort feels distant and God seems far away, the psalmist reaches out to God. Laments invite us to do the same—to keep crying out in prayer through the ups and downs of hardship.

2. Complain

The second step in lament is candidly talking to God about what is wrong. Biblical complaint vocalizes circumstances and feelings that do not seem to fit with God’s character or His purposes. While the psalmist knows God is in control, there are times when it feels as if He’s not. When it seems that God’s purposes aren’t loving, lament invites us to talk to God about it.

Instead of hiding our struggles, lament gives us permission to verbalize the tension. Psalm 13 begins this way. The psalmist wrestles with why God isn’t doing more.

How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
How long will my enemy triumph over me?

psalm 13:1-2

Biblical complaining is not venting your sinful anger toward God. It’s merely telling God about your struggles. And the more honest we can be, the sooner we are able to move to the next element.

3. Ask Boldly

Christians lament because the events of life seem to be incompatible with God’s promises. Lament not only acknowledges this tension, but it invites struggling believers to keep calling upon God to act. But lament seeks more than relief; it yearns for God to bring the deliverance that fits with His character. Godly lamenters keep asking even when the answer is delayed.

Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

psalm 13:1-2

Lament affirms the applicability of God’s promises by asking again and again for divine help. In so doing, these requests become hopeful reminders of what God can do. Asking boldly serves to strengthen our resolve to not give up. But it also encourages us to embrace the destination of all lament: trusting God.

4. Trust God

Renewed confidence in God’s trustworthiness is the destination of all laments. Turning, complaining, and asking lead here. Laments help us through suffering by directing our hearts to make the choice—often daily—to trust in God’s purposes that are hidden behind the pain. In this way, laments are some of the most theologically informed activities of the Christian life.

Laments lead us through our sorrows so that we can trust God and praise Him.

This is how Psalm 13 concludes. Notice the pivot on the word “but” and the direct decision to trust, rejoice, and sing.

But I trust in your unfailing love;
my heart rejoices in your salvation.
I will sing the Lord’s praise,
for he has been good to me.

psalm 13:5-6

It is a powerful ending to a blunt and honest Psalm. Every lament is designed to become this kind of pathway to praise. This minor-key song expresses the full range of human emotions so that we draw the right conclusion: “hard is hard, but hard is not bad.”

Conduit for praise

Once you learn the language of lament, you can begin to understand what was happening in the past. I’ve had many conversations with tear-filled people as they lamented their messy journey. Still others felt relieved because they wondered if they were being sinful because of the complicated emotions they battled. Lament gave them a voice and a process for their pain.

Lament can become a conduit for our praise. We can lead our sorrows, fears, and doubts through this historical prayer form. Our prayer times can mirror the inspired struggles in the Psalms. We can offer our own prayers using the turn, complain, ask, and trust process. There are over 40 Psalms that reflect this sorrow-to-praise language. We should take heart that the Bible gives us this quantity of songs to sing.

Knowing you should rejoice without understanding the path can be disheartening—even leading to despair. Laments provide the way for moving through loss to hope.

And by learning this language, we receive the grace God provides through this minor-key melody. We can discover a path to praise when lament is the song we sing.

This article is an adaptation of a blog post published at markvroegop.com. 

About the Author

Mark Vroegop is the lead pastor of College Park Church in Indianapolis and the author of three books, including Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament. He’s married to Sarah, and they have three married sons and a daughter. 

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270 Comments

  1. this blob came at the moment i most needed to hear this. my husband is beginning to show signs of memory loss and strange behavior, we are both 82 y/o, and I am anxious and fearful that I cannot handle this trial. i believe God wants me to rejoice in all things and I do try but there are days when it is so hard.
    this blob gives me an answer and way of dealing with my situation. I have been struggling with the idea that God might not change the circumstances but i can live in them and still be a conqueror, I know in my spirit that that is what God is telling me.
    thank you for posting this blog,
    I am also doing the 7-day devotion BSF posted, and the Lord has help me see i must request the Holy Spirit to reside in me every day so I can have those gifts so necessary for my daily walk with my spouse. God is so good. thanks for the encouragement and support you have given me.

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    • We are praying for you, Mary!

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  2. Brother Mark, you have blogged this so well. I am just ending a one an a half year of lament for the loss of my spouse for 30 years! I recently lost my son in law, April 13 and he was laid to rest APRIL 21 2023. The Lord prepared the table before me in the presence of my enemy! Psalm 23.
    Thank you for the reminder verses you gave in Scriptur. I will never be the same after this season!
    God bless you for taking the time to share your gifts of encouragement with the true saints of God, The Born Again Believers!

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  3. I am still in sadness/grief of our only daughter who stepped into eternity on June of 2020. I go through stages of being ok, joyful, ministering and moving forward. Then I go through this sadness, walking in a fog, daze and have no joy. I’m tired of the cycle and feel helpless.

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    • I’m so very sorry for your loss Janie. I just said a prayer for you. I hear your hurt and am holding that with you. As I pray for loved ones who’ve also lost a child I’ll be including you in those prayers. May God lift you up as you come to Him and trust others to share your burden.

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  4. I enjoyed the study of Lamentations and this blog. God bless BSF staff.

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  5. Thanks for the lament information and the truly experiences how we sometimes express ourselves during this time of sorrow. Seven years ago lamenting my sorrow openly to God gave me a relief and Peace to go on and know God heard my cry.

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  6. Thank you. This is the 1st time I’ve begin to comprehend the purpose of lament. It’s ok for sorrow to a part of depression. It can be a part of the pain and path leading to hope

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  7. This article was absolutely wonderful. I took so many notes that I plan to share with my group. Lots of my ladies are going through really tough things right now, and this message was very timely.

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  8. Thank you for this wonderful article that accurate explains the process of Lamenting. I just completed the BSF Lesson #27 from People of the Promise: Kingdom Divided. The personal timing of this article can only Gods providence for me on a very personal level.

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  9. How can I print this?

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    • Jeannie – unfortunately we do not offer a print friendly version at this time. We will add that to a list of requests!

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      • Thank you pastor Mark for authentic sharing. I was blind but now I see.. Just discovered the freedom of lamenting at the feet of Jesus.

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  10. Oh my God, this is awesome! You put a voice with words to a message the church needs to make known. And so timely. I am going to use this during Mental Health Awareness Month (May).
    Thank you.

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  11. Thank you so much for this article, it is outstanding!! For years, I believed that I needed to be stoic in the face of pain and disappointment. We ‘push through’ yet the confusion and disappointment remained. The study on Lamentations, the lecture and now this vlog has unwrapped my erroneous thinking and given me the language of truth and honest vulnerability in the face of hardship and pain. Thank you so much for adding to my faith – again.

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  12. Thank you for sharing this. Lamenting is the stuff of life. I learnt to praise God in the storm when I went through the 9/11 of my life (more than 10 years ago) and I felt the rug yanked off my feet. I remember crying and screaming in the safe space of my car while driving. That space was where He met me in my unashamed tears and fears! Looking back now, I vaguely remember the anger, the anguish and deep pain which were so raw and real then. Today, the sting of those moments has vanished only through His mercy and grace. The song, “I Will Praise You in This Storm” by Casting Crowns came to me. What I learnt above all, was that in the wailing, the waiting, and in the wandering of my heart, He never left my side and I was heard by the Maker of Heaven and Earth, from whom my help came. I am forever grateful that He held my heart then and still is today! “I sought the LORD, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed. This poor woman cried, and the Lord heard her and saved her out of all her troubles.” Psalm 34: 4-6

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  13. Really good blog. Pray for me. Strength to talk to a loved one about sin. God has been too good to us to sin like this. Please LORD. SHOW ME THE WORDS. GIVE ME BOLDNESS.

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    • Patty – praying with you!

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  14. I am blessed and encouraged in a fresh way. I praise Jesus, Thank you Pastor Mark

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    • When I was searching and crying out to the Lord, I didn’t realize I was lamenting until I now understand it more deeply through His word. Praise the Lord for showing me what I had gone through and for delivering me

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      • Thank you! This is so practical to help me to change the way I talk to the Lord, to really be honest, even though He knows it all.

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  15. WHAT???? Complain to God???? Oh wow–what a change in my prayers! I have always kept the holiness of God as my perspective when praying in reverence to I AM. These ideas are “mind boggling” for me and I am blessed to have been challenged to make this a part of my “Casting all my prayers on Him because He cares for me.” Thank you–what a great growth tool for me.

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  16. God bless this vessel that God used to help me understand, the moment of grief of the loss of my dear husband on March 9th 2023. The day he died I really felt as if my being stopped. I was struggling with so many thoughts, and yes bitterness am still in this grief, but this writer has really brought light, in helping me biblically understand this process of grieving. Please help me with your prayers so that I can move forward, trusting my living God. For I understand my husband is rejoicing with the Lord, and that I need to fight the good fight. Mary Vega BSF leaders

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    • Mary, my heart aches for you as I understand completely. My dear husband of 47 years died in 2019 and I’m still “just surviving.” This was the word that I needed at just the right time. God is sooooo good! God Bless you!

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  17. Good meditation!

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  18. This is very encouraging.
    Insightful!
    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

    Our God PROVIDES everything we have need of in every breath of life! Praise Him

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  19. This passage on Lament has truly help me to understand. Trusting God during my suffering is key. I can cry out to Him many many times about the same suffering.

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  20. Praise God for this article! I was raised that I should not pray this way to God, not to question Him. Yet, as stated, the Psalms is full of honest intimate prayers to a Loving, personal and present God! I’ve found that believing God would be angry with me for my honest (yet respectful approach) brought more doubts and harm to my faith walk. If we would share this in our small groups, pulpit sermons and the like, I know we would have more mentally, spiritually and emotionally healthier Christians…people in this world. Thank you thank you thank you for bringing “balm” to my aching heart. I am free now to draw closer to my Lord in honesty, reverence (not fear) and intimacy.

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  21. Thank you for this very helpful blog which is particularly resonating with me as I’m going through tough times. So reassuring to understand that ‘hard’ doesn’t equal ‘bad’.

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    • Thank You for this. I believe i have been lamenting and wulill continue to do so, but without guilt now. My life as I knew it is over and I pray, pray, pray for sleep to save me… is this alright?

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  22. Blessed with this blog.

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  23. Thank you! I have struggled all week to even begin the lesson on Lamentations. This blog post helped put a new tool in my proverbial belt, helping me understand the purpose and giving a simple process. I wrote so much of this down all over the top of my lesson notes. Thank you for saying “laments are some of the most theologically informed activities of the Christian life.” This gives permission and vision to lean in.

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  24. This is an excellent addition to our lessons on Lamentations. Thank you!

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  25. Very good,right now I need to do a lament prayer.

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  26. This is just great! !! I am going to remind my ladies of reading it and forward to a friend facing a huge loss!

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  27. Such helpful, wonderful, encouragement for how to deal with hard, hard situations we face. I never saw it this way but I see it now & Im ever so thankful. Thank you so very much Pastor Vroegop

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  28. Thanks for this insightful article about lamenting. I now have a clearer understanding of the process and purpose of lamenting. Christians do not have to stay stuck in their grief. I will share this blog with my grief support group.

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  29. Excellent word on how to approach and frame and respond to pain and prolonged suffering. Thank you for pointing out this approach. Thank you for acknowledging that there is an authentic response to what God allows in our lives and directing this to the end of trusting Him. I love it. I’m going to copy it and use it.

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  30. This was wonderful! I am 68 and have been going through life (as a believer since I was 14) dealing with the ever present pain of a tragic childhood (demonic mother, Christian dad who committed suicide on Easter morning when I was 15). God has been leading and helping me alot. I literally experienced great hope and healing as I read your comments about Lamentations. I am thrilled we are going to study the book! God bless you greatly!

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  31. Wondering if reading this to a person just beginning to search if there is a God, is a good or bad thing for them? or giving it to her to read alone?

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    • Diane, I loved this article too! Spend some time in prayer – we are praying for wisdom with you. Time in God’s Word is never wasted. Praying for your friend!

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  32. This was very meaningful and helpful!!! I have often struggled with my prayers and often seem to pray the same things every night. This definitely gives me a new way to talk with the Lord!!!~ Thank You so very much,

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  33. Thank you for this blog of Lament. I am going to print it & share with our class
    leaders. What a great addition to the study of Lamentations!!

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  34. Thank you. This ministered to me as I’m struggling with health issues when I thought that I am physically fit. I know that when I lament, God will not take it against me; He hears me. I pray that I’ll always hold on to His promises of hope and sustenance, and that His strength is made perfect in my weakness.

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  35. This article helped me see the positives of lamenting. I try to be upbeat & positive, but find myself distant from God. Trying to be more real in prayer – not try to “fluff” the LORD.

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    • I really never realised that my appeals to God could be made in the language of lament too. This was really an eye opener. This made me realise that Prayer of mine was insincere, that only one part truly prayed. I intend to note down there points to meditate aabnd

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  36. Thank you for this timely article on Lament, turn to God, complain, ask, trust. Turns your sorrows into praise.

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  37. Pastor Mark, thank you for your sermon (blog) on Lament. I really needed this Word of God today. I feel so much better within my spirit and I thank God for men and women like you who listen and deliver God’s message to us. You be Blessed, Mighty Servant of God!

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    • Thank you pastor Mark for this blog. I am from the Middle East and Lamenting in our prayers is normal, crying out to God in our grief is a part of my prayers. People do that in public too when grieving the loss of loved ones and at times like that, the people around encourage the grieving woman to let it out and cry out to God, and not keep it in. People would give the words of comfort like God understands your grief, and He is
      merciful and He will heal your broken heart. All the encouragement from the people around is a big help.

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  38. Thank you for such a practical explanation of lamenting. I have copied to a doc to use as a reminder when needed.

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  39. “There are over 40 Psalms that reflect this sorrow-to-praise language.”
    Do you have a list of the 40 Psalms??

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    • Mark – I have asked the author for the list! Will respond when I learn more. This list could be featured in his book?

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  40. I loved that lament I a conduit for praise so at this season of bad health I have learned to complain, ask and trust God as I wait and process what He is doing in my life as I trust Him for Who He is faithful and trustworthy.

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  41. This blog is so reassuring and gives practical ways that a believer can approach pain or suffering – in effect how to lament! Knowing God, believing in Him and trusting what He can do for His children in times of lamentations are the weapons needed to rejoice and praise God in pain.

    I am blessed, in effect, to have discovered the grace of Lament, Mark.

    God bless abundantly.

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  42. This is so good. I just finished reading Mark’s book, “ Dark Clouds-Deep Mercy”. It is about discovering the grace of lament.

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  43. 🙏 Praise the Lord for the timely explanation of the word.
    We are doing a word study on the word Lament.
    Thank you for the Blog.
    Now we can see how it relates to the Bible.
    Question? Would you say “JESUS lament at the gravesite of his friend who he
    Raised from the dead?
    God blessing.

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  44. What a powerful Blog Post. I had dinner with a friend recently and our dinner discussion centered around the violence we see daily in our country. Then I read your blog post and realized I can change the way I pray and ask my loving God for peace and comfort. I will share your blog post with my friend.

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  45. I feel like this blog will help me at the present because I am going through so much physical pain and it is hard to keep hope. Thank you.

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  46. Thank you for this post. I have just talked to a friend who is going through so much heartache and this would help her use Lamentations to draw close to God. Is it ok to share this post with friends who need this message?

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    • Hi Njambi, you are always welcome to share anything from the bsfblog! We are so glad this post was helpful to you.

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  47. What a fresh look at suffering. I have long admired David’s way of praying in the psalms, and this article has even provided a structured way of doing the same. May I learn this language of lament for those low periods.

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  48. Wow! This is just what I needed to read today. Struggling with a spouse’s memory issues, that are so hard. Thank you.

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  49. I had no idea! And I am super grateful for the sharing and explanation. I look forward to digger deeper into Psalm with an eye to study and learn this historically provided path toward joy and not just read thru.

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  50. Very great … I wish this came in a printable form …

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    • Suzanne – thank you for that request! We would love to make these printable also

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    • Truly a Word in season for me, my family and close friends. Thank you very much for helping me understand how Lament can lead me to the point of hope. I have been blessed, truly blessed. I would be most grateful for a printable version of your article.

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      • Hi Grace! We are so glad it was helpful to you. If you go to the top right corner of your browser, there should be three vertical dots. If you click there, you can choose “print” and save a copy of the webpage. Thank you!

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  51. I remember my journey of recognizing the deep anger, hate and bitterness I held in my heart for years. Today, I walk in the forgiveness and freedom of a loving, patient and healing Savior. Thank you Jesus!

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  52. Thank you, this blog is very helpful to me. I have never seen the value of Lamenting before this. I have lost both of my sons to mental illness and have no contact, I don’t know if they are alive. I have carried great sorrow for 25 years. I appreciate the simplicity of “Turn, Complain, Ask and Trust.”

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  53. I really appreciated this practical explanation of laments, and the reminder to choose to trust what is true about God in the midst of our deepest sorrows. Sometimes our feelings don’t match our faith. This blog, and the Biblical pattern it described, showed me how to cling to my faith in God’s character and promises even when my feelings of sorrow, despair, doubt, fear, etc. seem overwhelming.
    It’s also a helpful post to learn how to help other believers who are grieving deeply. Thank you.

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  54. Thankful for this timely reminder that it is ok to grieve and lament as Christians!

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  55. This is so helpful. God has left nothing out for us to have a fulfilled life. In Joy or pain, we have it all.

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  56. I am really encouraged by how lamenting has be simplified. As I went through the write up, I could not help it but to lament and praise. Thank you very much for this teaching.

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  57. Thankyou Mark, for the wonderful enlightening message , this was like a answer to my prayer to understand how to go about my doubts .

    thank you

    Nathaniel

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  58. What a wonderful approach to speaking with our Savior and understanding the value of this process in building a relationship with our Lord.

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  59. Thank you for these wise words.

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  60. Yes indeed. Struggling with our faith in God, our hope for answers and our fear of God, find us feeling frustrated.
    Our Lament to turn, ask,complain and trust in God is a sure way to avoid doubts or discouragement.
    In the Swahili tongue, Asante Sana.

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    • Thank you for this timely message. Helpful for us to make sense of Jeremiah’s world and our own. Gratitude to God, Jeremiah and Pastor Mark.

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  61. Beautiful and such a reminder of what our Savior did for us through these words.
    Thank you for this.

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  62. Thank you Pastor for this perspective on Lament. It made me realize that it’s not negative to complain the negative part is how you do it and to whom.
    Lamenting as you helped me understand is like a cleansing, a remembering what God has done for me and by this my sorrow turns to joy. Thank you.

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  63. I purchased his book, “Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy: Discovering the Grace of Lament”. it is so helpful for my lament and also for helping those who are lamenting. it is a language to be learned and it will never be too late to learn.

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  64. Really learned something this morning, thank you

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  65. I am I a dark place with a very sick loved family member.This article on way forward brought me back to knowing way forward.I had head knowledge but was stuck in pain, listening and whether be silent or encourage others going forward.Trust and God does this …..how soon

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    • Thank you for sharing this true meaning of lament. I pray that God will teach me how to always turn my worries to praise.

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  66. Our family is in a season of deep lament. At times I have had to give myself “permission” to lament again as the trouble of this world seems unending in it ravaging my family. My son told me that his teacher told me the worst emotion in the world to have is “despair” because despair means the person is hopeless. He is witnessing to his teacher and so I sent a copy of this to my 14 year old to share with his searching teacher. What a well written article that gives us all permission to lament and worship.

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  67. Love this. How we need this to help us articulate through our pain.

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  68. Loved this presentation.
    It was clear, well written and presented, giving me much appreciated insight over a genuinely disconcerting issue I struggle to understand.

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  69. Thank you for the sharing about lamenting. I enjoyed what you had to say about Lamentations.

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  70. Thank you

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  71. Thank you Pastor Mark for expounding on the truth of Lament. You have beautifully said how to approach God with our lament . And I am just reminded today that Jesus is no stranger to lament or grief . He was abandoned and deserted by His very own but He knew He had to stay on mission so that 2000 years later we had the answers . Gods word is active and living and sharper than any double edged sword and it brings me delight and hope to ok now and be assured that our Lord cares what we go throughout each moment , hour , day and year of our lives . Isn’t He amazing . He knows our very thoughts , our sighings , our sittings and our goings. Glory to God in the Highest .
    Thank you Mark for shifting my attention to the hope we have in Jesus

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  72. Excellent words to guide these time which without His words can lead to despair.

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  73. excellent thank you, thank you for your comments that prepare me to study Lamentations with a view that it’s just another gift from God and I may come before Him where ever I am and He will hear me and answer me and lead me into hope and praise…

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  74. I like Luke and Acts. I am more of a believer that God can do anything and our mediator is Jesus. “For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus” (1 Timothy 2:5). Through Him mercy can be fully extended to each of us without offending the eternal law of justice. Pray to Jesus for mercy and healing and then act by moving forward in faith until the suffering and pain are relieved or we move on to another world.

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  75. This is beautiful and I will make a copy and turn to this. We all face heartache and suffering. The reasons we must face suffering were powerfully outlined earlier this year in BSF.
    Thank you for sharing this piece.

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  76. This teaching clarifies how we relate for God, our Father, being authentic with Him, without pretending that the children of His Kingdom on earth are ‘challenge-free’. And that a guenuine lament affirms our intimate relationship with our Father, and it is different from doubting or whining.

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  77. These practical steps to take when we face grief are insightful and helpful. I know my study of Lamentations will be enriched this week because i took time to read this blog. I’m very grateful. .

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  78. Thank you for this inspiring and encouraging message that confirms what the Lord spoke to me about not so long ago.
    He is indeed faithful

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  79. Dear Mark
    The ways of lamentation has really encouraged me in my Christianity live. I have also involved been involved in asking God why he always allows my enemies to tremble on me always. This has encouraged me a lot. My partner keeps on throwing words to me and talking out in public that he want my business to fail so that he can proof am in capable but I have seen God, through all my lamentation he is always there for me. I will keep on lamenting him until he answers my prayers. May God have mercy on us and hear our lamentation

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  80. Thank you so much for sharing this!!

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  81. Question: What is the difference between complaining, like the Israelites in the desert, and lamenting.
    I feel guilty when I lament because it reminds me of what the Israelites did. I don’t want to anger God.
    Also, putting a lament into a song makes me think of the slave songs of the South. Some of them are still around.

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    • I too have the same question and thought of the Israelites complaining in the desert that God was not happy with their grumbling. God is God and his ways are higher than our ways as in Job questioning the Lord, so who are we to complain since God knows best.

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  82. Thank you for this post. I feel affirmed and encouraged (many long years of care-giving, death)🙏🏻

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  83. I am very grateful and blessed by this beautiful gift you have sent. At first reading through and just allowing the words and grace seem to flow from the page, it feels comforting and calming.
    It was an unexpected delight to find myself being lifted from the place I was when I first started to read.
    I am very much looking forward to sharing this with several friends, who I believe will enjoy similar responses as we all struggle alone and together on the in between steps that will finally lead us home .

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  84. Thank you! I needed this right now! Just reading this has given me a truck-load of hope!
    I can’t adequately express with words the joy and peace I feel!

    This I do know: I love Him and trust Him even more!!!

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  85. YES !!! COMFORTING!

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  86. This is another lesson to learn and glad this blog was given, I will share this information with other saints. Thank you

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    • What an encouraging blog and insight into Laments. Stating Laments help is through suffering to make the choice to trust God in His plan behind the pain!

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  87. Thank you for Learning the Language of Lament. My wonderful husband passed away in 12/21, and I’ve been so sad. This article has Reinforced my feelings that I’ve had-I love BSF, I’ve been going for only 6 years, but it has definitely helped me in my spiritual growth!
    I feel so much better knowing that God knows what I’m feeling and what He wants-to trust in Him.

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    • Thanks for this message.
      The turn,complain,ask and trust
      form is a real process for me as I pray about my relationships with
      God and the people around me.
      Bless you all !

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  88. I am inspired by this particular reading. Enlightened by the confirmation that it has given me.
    I am on the Lamenting path and will continue to lay it all at the feet of Jesus.
    Glory to God in His fullness and to His faithfulness.
    Hallelujah! Amen.

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  89. I am gg thru many health issues right now and this was just what I needed

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  90. Thank you for this very thoughtful, concise explanation of the mystery of what Lamentations are. I now have a greater understanding of what this is and how I can use this prayer method when going through those deep valley’s.
    Corrie Ten Boom and her sister used Lamentations when praying while imprisoned. and I recall those prayers ending with praise even while they were undergoing the most brutal treatment and torture. I am going to keep this

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  91. Thank you for this word from our Lord. A dear cousin (a Christian who lives 2000 miles away) is going through such grief & depression right now…I had the opportunity to really talk with her and relay some of your thoughts. The tears flowed – the prayers/lamentations were expressed and she told me she feels better than she has in a very long time – that a heavy burden seemed to be lifted. This BSF blog came at such a needed time, to be used in helping a dear one. Praise and Thanks to our God and thank you Mark Vroegop for this presentation. So grateful for BSF and all your writers and presenters. God Bless You!

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  92. Lamenting is a new topic for me. I appreciate learning about it at this time.
    Because many people believe they shouldn’t complain to God, it is a great topic for new Christians. Going to God in all things is key to a relationship with Him.

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  93. I needed to hear this message. I thank God for placing it before me and for your obedience in its creation.

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  94. I lived in Indiana for almost 60 years and its good to know that Indianapolis still has solid Christian leadership. I recently went through a health struggle and many verses in Psalms and Jeremiah helped me to get through self pity to praise. And the Lamentations 3:19-22) got me through various stages of “down” days! The article’s perspective added to my personal library of options to rely on, thanks!

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  95. What a great blog/arti le. It came at a perfect time in my life when I am going through some difficult changes. Bless Pastor Mark for these helpful insights!

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  96. They say, ‘no pain, no gain’ – but that is incomplete. It is ‘pain>lament>praise>hope>victory’.

    So encouraged by this blog entry. It has come at a time when I was asking God for a way out of my situation. Now I know what to do🙏🏼🙏🏼

    Thank you, Mark🙏🏼

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  97. Reading this was such a blessing!
    I needed this today .
    My precious sister passed away this past Thursday from COVID complications.
    She was suffering . No longer !!!!PTL.
    But for me it’s just so heartbreaking and I’ve been talking and asking the Lord why ?
    Reading about how to Lament certainly answered my prayers .
    I have been lamenting I just didn’t have a name for it.
    Thank you and many blessings .🙏

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  98. This was so timely. I lead a GriefShare group at our church and the idea of lamenting was just covered in a recent video. I am going to share this Blog with those in our group. I know God will use it to help them on their journey of grief.

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  99. What a wonderful article! Thank you for teaching us how to praise God by using the language of lament. While reading the article, I prayed using the four elements of lament and I already feel closer to God. Thank you again.

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  100. This is the first time I have read anything on lament. I know the Holy Spirit leads us through dark days of sorrow and pain. I’m so grateful that God is real to me and when I cried out to Him, I trusted that He would get me through – and He did. Looking back on difficult times builds our faith.

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  101. I have always felt that complaining to God was not what a believer was permitted to do. So I took my complaint and tucked it away to look at later.

    Thank you for this freeing message and the elements of lament.

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  102. This is a very practical tool. I love this blog and desire to use it in my own life in areas where I feel stuck. Thank you BSF for sharing this.

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  103. Thank you so much. I have never heard Lamentations explained this way. I realize I need to pray differently now for restoration of our family and other grief or sorrow that may come.
    Happy Easter as we give glorious praise to our Lord for our Savior, Jesus Christ.

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  104. What a beautiful way to look at the Psalms of lament! I have too often turned away from them because they are heavy and fraught with pain. Now, because of your teaching I have a new understand and more importantly, an outlet for life’s pains.
    Thank you so much for your careful and thoughtful teaching on Laments. I am most appreciative and will pass on what I’ve learned in hopes of giving this hope to others!

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  105. Thank you for this article. Its just what I feel I need in the space and season that I currently am in and also for future reference and my walk in faith.

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  106. This is such an encouragement!
    Thank you. I am thankful for a God who understands and has made a way for us to get through the hard times.

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  107. Thank you for this understanding and encouragement.

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  108. Thank you very much Mark Vro egop; this prayer form of laments has often helped me; crying out the burden on my heart has quickely led me t peace!! I encourage all fellow Christians to practice this language ! Indeed we have to be with somebody who accept this prayer way because all Christians prefer to pray silently.

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  109. Before this BSF study on Lamentations, I had never read the book. And now this blog on Lament and how important and freeing it is, is so helpful and a beautiful part of my walk closer with the Lord. Thank you.

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  110. After reading this blog and recognizing, once again the omniscience of God, I’m looking forward to studying Lamentations next week. I will study that book with a perspective of how I can use the act of lament for myself and others God may place in my path. I want to always have the ability to turn my sorrow into joy in a manner pleasing to my Heavenly Father.

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  111. You said there are over 40 Psalms that reflect this sorrow to praise language. What are they, please?

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  112. This was perfectly timed for my husband and me. We are both dealing with cancer issues that have given us the emotions you referenced. I wanted to continue to praise Our Savior but the thoughts that swirled in my head seemed to prevent that. Thank you for posting Mr. Vroegop’s blog at “just the right time”! We will use this format in our daily prayer time to truly glorify and praise our Lord in spite of our circumstances, because of the help and guidance you have given us.
    All for Him.

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  113. This is beautiful and so enlightening. It’s ok to feel let down by God or forgotten, as long as I take my feelings to Him honestly and openly. I can see how breaking down before God will bring me to a natural conclusion of “but”. But You are faithful, but You are with me, but You love me. I’m going to study the Psalms of Lament more closely and the Book of Lamentations. Thank you.

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  114. Thank you for this.

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  115. So encouraging and such an excellent explanation of Lament! Thank you!

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  116. This lament old not have come at a better time. I found out today that my best friend, a believer, has stage 4 cancer I am so thankful that I know he is a child of God, it will be a blessing for him to see God in heaven. I shared this and we are so grateful. It has helped all of us to be positive and to thank God and not blame Him. Thank you, thank you, thank you, I thank God for this message, it has been a great help.

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  117. A very very inspiring message and homily. Gives a paradigm shift. Be blessed the servant of the Lord

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  118. I found this very helpful. Thank you. Is there an “easy way” to find those 40 psalms of sorrow to praise?

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  119. Thank you for comforting me not anymore pretending that I am fine.
    Your words guide me to remember God’s unfailing love for me.
    I hope I can endure the process of struggling, and understand the meaning of trials to reach to praise God.

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  120. Beautiful…

    I will share this with those who are sorrowful..

    Thank you.

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  121. Thanks for this interesting explanation. It means a lot to me. This is something new I am learning . I have done something like this before but never knew what did I do exactly and never knew that this has an order
    and that this is something biblical! Thanks again and bless you and bless BSF for this biblical insights.

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  122. I needed this. Thank you

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  123. Lament is a grace—a gift! Thanks for giving and reminding me.

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  124. Thank you! I’ve bee a Christian since I was 9 yrs old & have never learned to read Lamentations with understanding. Yes, I knew what the word, lament, meant but I never put 2+ 2 together to make knowledge into
    Godly, Spirit filled Wisdom. Thank again & May God Bless yo!

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  125. What an encouraging message. Thanks, pastor Mark.
    I lost my 55-year-old mom in 2020 after a long battle with cancer, it was trough the language of lament that I was able to process the loss. There are days when those feelings come back, but I know that God has been faithful , He is good, and his promises are true. My mom is with Jesus and that gives me all the peace I need to keep going.

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  126. Thank you for putting into words what I have felt but couldn’t express. Thank you for the assurance that I can be authentic and vulnerable before God.

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  127. I shared the message with my sister whose beloved husband passed away less than a month ago. She finds it helpful- a way to handle sorrow by lamenting to God in prayers. Thank God for His grace! Thank you, Pastor Mark.

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  128. This article addressed a question whose answer I had sought during a faith-crisis I had journeyed through. I felt Mark’s citations and his deep insight confirmed what God taught me through my own journey to healing and a rebound to my faith walk. Thank you for sharing this meaningful essay.

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  129. Absolutely beautiful. A real answer to these needs of the hurting. I will pass it on.

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  130. Thank you – this is so helpful!

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  131. Suffering and pain is part of life. We need to have the right perspective. Focus on our LORD God give me the right perspective.

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  132. This is quite informative. I did not know how to go through pain/ difficult situatioms, many times o would take a pause knowing God has forgottem me, I start to sing and then after some time I return to prayer. Thr lament languague is a powerful process that I have learnt

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  133. I love this. Very clear steps to lamenting when you’re in pain.

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  134. I found this bog very helpful. However, it can appear that just praying
    G lament one time alleviates the pain when praying lament can take time of praying lament over and over to find a person can praise God through the pain. It is not a magic wand to wave once to reach resolution.

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  135. Great and informative

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  136. It has been a long while since I read such beautiful writing that speaks so much comfort.
    It has taught me to find solace in lamenting and to reach out to God in every distress.
    This article comforted me much.
    Thank you 🙏

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  137. So much of comfort and joy reading Mark Vroegop’s blog. Just the encouragement that we need in our daily living.
    Blessings!

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  138. I deeply appreciate this blog post. It’s helping me process my grief having recently lost my father. Thank you!

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  139. Thank you for this Holy Spirit led , well written post on the language of lament. As a conduit for Praise , this post confirmed Isaiah 61:3 so boldly and joyously in my heart and daily life after so much loss and change in our local congregation. and family over the last few years!

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  140. When trials or troubles I face I usually think either God is testing me or punishing me . So I ask for forgiveness for sins committed knowingly or unknowingly. And also knows it is part of life . So only ask for strength and courage , wisdom and guidance to pass through the valleys of life

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  141. Thanks for these words. They are encouraging in allowing us to verbalise the reality of our pain and helping us to turn to God in trust that he will never leave or forsake us.

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  142. This absolutely spoke to my heart. I have so often wondered why I seem to retreat from God when I should be turning towards Him. This has helped me realize that I am not alone and has given me a direction I can take when I feel myself withdrawing from God because of my pain. Thank you for the blessed words you shared.

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  143. Thank you for sharing this. It was so encouraging as I do share my concerns with the Lord and also things upsetting me. I hold on knowing that the Lord loves me unconditionally and that is how I am to love others! Praise the Lord.

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  144. Lament. A word not usually heard. But a good word to chose wisely. And probably more often. Thanks

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  145. This was so timely and helpful. I lead a small group and one precious friend lost her husband a year ago. She has been unable to get past the grief but feels that by grieving for so long she is sinning. She is struggling with grief and guilt and my heart breaks for her.

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  146. Thank you for this. I have several friends including myself going through “hard” things, caregiving for parents with Alzheimer’s, prodigal children, loss of family members, waiting years for God to restore broken relationships.
    We are learning to stay in today where God’s abundant grace is and praise in the midst of despair because we have the help of His presence (Psalm 46:5b). This is a timely word. Yes, things are hard and difficult but if we ask to see His grace in it, He does show us. It’s good to look back too and see His faithfulness when the road is much longer than we expect. He does sustain His weary ones with His Word, working out our impurities in the valleys and raising us up when we need carrying. If we keep walking with Him thru “hard” we will have a whole new book of His graces to write about and praise Him for to the next generation.

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  147. This is a great blog in helping me to understand what lamentation really means and how it can be a beautiful thing in developing more trust in God without the guilt of complaining to Him. The steps of lamentation are a great help to mean in approaching the Lord in times of despair and in the frustrations with my poor health at this time.

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  148. Thank you for this wonderful and inspiring article on Laments. It has given me food for thought as I travel my journey through my times of suffering and also shown me a way to process my feelings in the process of lament. God Bless you!

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  149. This is what I need now. My husband died Feb 1. I appreciate the avenue this teaching on prayers of lament gives me.

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  150. These are very encouraging words that give me strength when understanding how to
    use God’s Word to minister to my soul. His word is definitely a lamp unto my feet and
    a light to my path.
    Thank you for your words of wisdom discerning how to use God’s words to lament
    when walking though some valleys of life.

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  151. Thank you this was a great blog.

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  152. Thank you so much for this wonderful and truthful perspective regarding pain and suffering!
    This is definitely the pathway leading to the Trust & Praise of God that He desires!
    When I combine this with God’s wisdom, timing and purposeful growth for us, as well as seeing this life as “temporary” and eternity with God “eternal,” His presence brings the light of hope front and center!
    The last short paragraph richly sums it up! I will be sharing this with many people!

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  153. This is so helpful, thank you Mark. A great help and encouragement for both myself and my group ladies, especially for a couple of them who are lamenting right now.

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  154. Thank you Mark for sharing very practically how to come through hard times with a deeper trust in God

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  155. Thank you for your article on lament.
    It’s a concept that many grieving persons don’t understand. I am a facilitator in GriefShare and the lament prayer is something we encourage our participants to practice in grief. Writing down our laments in a journal helps us to look back and see God’s comfort and strength in our deepest need. It’s faith building.

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  156. Thank you, Pastor Mark. This is so rich and true. Something I do, but you lay it out so beautifully. I am grateful for the sweet and honest way we can come to our God and be transparent in all of life’s challenges. I appreciate the hard is hard but hard isn’t bad statement. It can seem bad but because of the hope we have in our Savior we can trust Him to bring us through.

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  157. Very helpful I now understand how to take my loss to hope through my laments . Thank you

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  158. Thank you. This is well said and too rarely said. God bless you this Easter

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  159. God has perfect timing. Our family is going through this very struggle. My grandson is going through the result of his choices. This storm will not last, but Gods love for us will, and we will praise God for leading the way.

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  160. I think you hit the nail on the head when you wrote: “Our celebratory singing, while not wrong, doesn’t usually lead us through our sorrows. It just drowns out the struggles with invitations to rejoice. But embracing joy without wrestling with tough questions can feel incomplete—even fake.”

    Now I can put a reason to why I love the old hymns sung in “minor key language”! Thank you, Mark!

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  161. Very good article and makes some striking points. I would only add that each step of learning to lament is a period of time that varies with each person.

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  162. Taste and see that God is good, what a mighty God we served.
    When I was growing up as a child the old folks used to pray and Lament I did not understand what it meant now I am 80 years old I can read the true meaning, praise be to God he is awesome and thank him for the Resurrection of Jesus .

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  163. Thank you! This is a great tool!
    Would you consider translating to Spanish?
    Thanks,

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  164. Excellent teaching

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  165. Thank you Pastor Mark Vroegop for your beautiful message! Now I learned how to lament to turn our sorrow to joy.I know lament is a pathway to praise when life gets hard.Hope you can guide my spiritual life through these messages.

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  166. Well said and perfect timing!
    I tend to follow these four steps but never had a word to describe the process. Lament will become part of my vocabulary from now on. Thank you for spelling out a way to rejoice in God no matter what

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  167. Thank you for the message today on lamenting. I looked at lamenting differently, but now I see most clearly that I’m not complaining of my sickness but I am admitting and asking God to redeem me from all the uncomfortable sickness and disease. Thank you for the message I receive it.

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  168. Every Christian needs to understand lament. So much guilt can be removed!!! Thank you.

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  169. This was really wonderful for my Good Friday and Easter weekend study. The pivot to Resurrection Sunday is triumphant joy when we understand the language of Lament.

    Most of us are in despair because of a lack of lament- “prayer in pain that leads to trust”.

    We opt for silence instead but the message here was to face it head on with the “turn, complain, ask and trust” prayer.

    I’m grateful for renewed confidence in remembering God’s trustworthiness and awesome plan of salvation.

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  170. Thank you so much for writing this. At first, I was confused about the joy of singing songs of praise may cause us to NOT fulfilled; but now I understand that we must earnestly work thoroughly through our pain and concerns, and we will rejoice truthfully and completely.

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  171. Wow. Thank you. Just thank you. Great article. I do this, a seeing that it’s “OK” is great . This gives me a little more direction though too.

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  172. So inspiring.

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  173. I never really understood the apparent change of heart by the psalmist–in this example, the pivot word “but” in the step of choosing to trust God, until it actually happened to me when praying. It escaped me that the psalmist was choosing. As a young Christian (I was about 30 and newly reborn), I could not grasp that aspect of so many of the psalms. I’ve put a pdf of this essay on my desktop for continued reference.

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  174. Powerful and something I need right now

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  175. Thank you Pastor Mark. The blessing you brought to my wife and I as she was in the infusion room getting chemo and I read your passage brings me hope in our struggles. Vivat Jesus. Bill B

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  176. That really helped me understand my own feelings when I’m going through hard times. Sometimes I feel that I’m not normal.

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  177. Dear Mark,
    Thank you so much for this timely message. It was just what I needed today as I am experiencing a deep need to lament based on the trials and tribulations I am going through, with no end in sight right now. It truly helped to be able to define what I am experiencing from a biblical standpoint and to know that God understands and has already made provisions for it.
    May God continue to bless you, your family, and your ministry.

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  178. I have had the death of my son in law to leukemia, my brother (my only sibling) to cancer, and my son 8 months ago to PTSD. My husband is suffering from dementia. Your blog on lament is so helpful. I am not angry or bitter but these steps are helpful in putting structure to my grief. Thank you.

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  179. My husband died June, 2022. I am presently involved with a grief sharing group and this present week taught us about lamenting. When I saw this blog I had a desire to read it. Lamenting before God is new but exciting because it actually portrays Gods character to me . He knows and loves me.

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  180. This has really enlightened and blessed me. Thank you so much!

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  181. I found this blog to be very helpful in communicating with God in times of great struggle. It will also help me to help others in facing great trials in their lives.

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  182. Your article came just in time, I like you to know that. It surely has helped me for what i am now going through. I recently lost my wife to cancer, only 2 months ago. I loved her deeply and not I grieve deeply. The pain at time seems unbearable to bare. I know she is heaven with the savior she loved.

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  183. Thank you for this post on Lamenting. I found it so helpful have copied it so that I can remember when the these moments come. I had found it difficult to pray when in this situation at a loss for words. Now I have a way to pray through the pain. God Bless and again Thank you.

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  184. I can attest that the Lord has formed my heart to lament. To lament and weep for those I love who are far from God or are walking long roads of suffering. To lament and intercede for those who flat out reject God as Creator and sustainer of life. To lament the certain disappointments and painful losses experienced in this fallen and broken world. By God’s glorious grace, He holds and keeps my heart anchored in the Truth and hope found in my sweet Savior, Jesus…..Man of sorrow, acquainted with grief and the source of my certain hope, now and for eternity. The One who IS my joy, in ALL circumstances. And because He lives, I can face tomorrow ! Glory to God !
    BSF has been a great source of tethering my heart to Truth found in God’s Word. And for that, I am thankful !

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  185. An excellent article on Lament from definition to process. “Laments provide the way for moving through loss to hope.”

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  186. Thank-you for this explanation of lament.It has been very insightful.

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  187. Thank you for your blog and making lament easy to understand.

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  188. Thank you
    This is not only clarified things, but given a structure that is so helpful, especially what is happening during this lent season to me personally.

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  189. Thank you very much for explaining how to turn our sorrows into joy🙏

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  190. This is so good for us as we all have gone through seasons of hardship, distress, and loss; especially since 2020.
    We know there is more to come. This equips us to prepare and to be a prepared vessel that God can use to encourage so many others through the times ahead.

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  191. Thank you for these instructional words that are showing me know God is with me in every season. I am in a painful place with regards to my family. This has helped me see clearly, that even though it is a dark and uncertain place that I’m in, I now have tools to make my worship better and prevent me from hardening my heart.

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  192. Thank you very much.

    A word in season for me. This has clarified everything for me and I am now able to redirect my prayer path.

    All glory to the Lord our God for continually speaking to us through His servants!

    All the blessings Pastor!

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  193. Great insights! Thank you!!!

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  194. I found this blog to be very meaningful and helpful

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  195. Thank you for sharing these insights on prayers of lament. My personal life circumstance has felt overwhelming and at times even crushing. I am grateful for the reminder that God hears my prayers and is not disappointed in my grief and sorrow. I praise God for providing words of encouragement through this blog.

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  196. This was very helpful to me in my struggles while trying to keep “a stiff upper lip”.

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  197. Great insight and teaching about what lament is! Thank you!

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  198. Beautifully written n very helpful. Thank you for your insight and sharing. May God be with you.

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  199. This is an extraordinarily encouraging post. Thank you so much for sharing. I have lived in the Psalms for many years. God has allowed some very dark times. Yet though He slay me, I will trust in Him.

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  200. Once I fasted for three days for an answer from God. Why did He not give me my Godly request? My answer came ,Do you not believe that I love you, and that I am working all things for your good? I felt that my answer was ,God loves me and He is sovereign. The answer to many if not all my questions ,God’s answer “Just trust me”

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  201. What a beautiful write up!!! Praise god in every situation!!!

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  202. Excellent Article.

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  203. John Vroegop, my friend from Kalamazoo started a Bible study group, back in the early eighties. He called it the Early Risers because that was his name.

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  204. Thank you so much for this blog. It touched my soul as I read it this Good Friday. It is extremely timely as I grieve deep losses that have become messy and complicated in my life. Your blog gives me a template for my prayers of pain and emotions and experiences that feel so hard and confusing.

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  205. As a Clinical Psychologist working in a faith-based setting, this is spot-on psychologically and, of course, Biblically. Thanks, Mark!

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  206. A very timely message, thank you! God IS good all the time♥️🙏

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  207. My my , in Gods world He has come to me just this day. My two Golden retrievers are in very poor health and both are nearing the end . They’re so trusting in me and losing their companionship Is very hard for me. I can see more clearly after reading the blog on our BSF App.

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  208. Thank you for such encouragement. Praising or Lord for your faithful teaching and opening our minds to such good and encouraging insight. Blessings to you.

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  209. Thank you for this lesson. It has come at a time when family members are disagreeing and misunderstanding. Ĺamenting is part of the process to lead us to praise

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  210. That was an excellent message. Thank you so much for sharing that! I’ve shared this with several friends going thru hard times!

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  211. My heart is so thankful for reading your blog today being Good Friday! These words of Lament spoke to me in a very deep and meaningful way. I have struggles in my life that I just hide from others regarding my relationship with my unsaved husband. I have to remember from now on that Hard is hard but Hard is not bad! Thank you Pastor Mark.

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  212. This was refreshing and much needed. I have been saved for some time but have never heard this. An explanation and understanding of how to lament is something that I believe that many Christians are missing but are desperately in need of. Sometimes your struggle is so significant that you cannot just smile your way through it. This is a godly path to spiritual breakthrough that allows you to be truthful with where you really are as opposed to simply pretending and actually making your road to healing and true rejoicing even longer. Thank you!

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  213. My friend faces a terminal diagnosis. I struggle to encourage her without “preaching”. God spoke to me through your words to be able to come along side of her in her struggle. Thank you.

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  214. Thank you for helping me understand the purpose of lament. It is the pathway from sorrow to joy. It is the grief we must walk through, the pain to be shared, the tears to be shed. Is it true that some people get stuck in this phase? It is through faith that I have found the joy that comes in knowing and loving God.

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  215. Thoroughly enjoyed this piece! Thankyou for sharing.

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  216. Very helpful in processing emotional pain and staying before God.

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  217. Thank you for this blog. It is so timely and helpful as I work through all the current struggles in my life and such a source of inspiration as I attempt to move forward with God’s help.

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  218. Hi Mark,
    The timing of this article is perfect. Though I’ve been a Christian since the late 90s, I’m so grateful to learn something so profound and new. I just want to say thank you for such a life-changing teaching to add to my arsenal as I walk through this life.

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  219. Thank you for the sequence in this discussion! I needed to learn how to learn how to praise God while crying in sorrow!

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  220. Thank you. This is helpful.

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  221. What a beautiful explanation of how to work through our struggles using these four steps. God always knows our heart and wants us to turn to Him even in our sorrows.

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  222. Very encouraged by this fresh perspective to prayer in suffering and applying the lamentations from the word of God to turn from our prison to praise….thanks!
    Blessings at Easter!

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  223. Thank you for this. I have always been a bit confused by the lamenting and this really explains it. Praise God that he listens to my lamenting in times of trouble and uncertainty!🙏🙏🙏

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  224. Thank you for this well written timely piece. I was blessed to read it and encouraged to implement it.

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  225. Thank you so much for this Blog on “Turn Your Sorrow to Praise”. It was very helpful to me. I have a son that since he married has cut off all of his family and we have had no contact or seen him or his famiily and my grandchildren in 11 years. I was doing the Lament Process all along for the last 11 years without knowing it but at the same time feeling guilty for crying out to God why he wasn’t there to help but like David, turning around and thanking him for the blessings he has given me–6 other grandchildren I have a relationship with. It is hurtful when a child turns from his family–my son and his brothers were extremely close but he no longer has a relationship with them either. So every holiday, birthday, anniversary it brings up the hurt feelings and sadness–it starts the Process of Lament all over again, but I didn’t know that was what it was called. Thank you for sharing this and the love and support it has given me. As a widow, I cry out to God more than I did when I was married. He is my Abba Father and Savior! I Rejoice in the Lord Always, again I say Rejoice!” Thank you for BSF. It is a blessing in my life.

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  226. Thank you for this clarification on my struggles, life is hard lots of times and I would sometimes in my hardships think God was punishing me, but by crying out, lamenting God hears me, and brings me through, while growing my relationship and trust in him.

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  227. Thank you for this teaching. It’s exactly what I needed this morning.I desire to be a godly lamenter. 🫶🏻

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  228. What a beautiful message, especially as we celebrate the resurrection of Our Lord and Savior, Jesus.

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  229. Wonderful article! I find it very encouraging! Thanks!

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  230. This is both well written and impactful as we journey through life as followers of Christ who are not yet home with our Savior. We can cry out to God, and know he hears us! It is comforting to know we can turn, complain, ask, and trust the Lord for all things. Jesus modeled lamented before going to cross and even cried out to the Father before giving up his life. Happy Easter

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  231. This is really helpful. Thank you for sharing this. I really identify with what you have written. Lament allows us to share our struggles with God and in turn to feel like He hears us in our anguish, pain and disappointment.

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  232. This is really helpful. Thank you for your thoughtful insights and wisdom. I am saving this for future reference. So good!!!

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  233. Great Truths, Great message!! God is Faithful in good times & tough times!! Praise His Holy Name for His love, His Comfort, His Strength!! I have marked the book of Lamentations many times, underlined verses, prayed the prayers……HE is Faithful!!! He will not leave us!! Thank you for this reminder! God bless you! Perfect timing to encourage us w/ this! Janet

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  234. Thank for your insights about lamenting, I was doing that after my husband passed. Now I know it’s okay and it’s a process we go through in different ways. I pray I get to the other side of this,

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  235. Thank you so much for the Biblical knowledge to deal with sorrow and pain!
    In HtS love and mine

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  236. Excellent-a new perspective for me. Thank you.

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  237. Thank you, our family has just suffered great loss back to back. As a Christian I had know idea how to help myself or my family process through this. Now I do. God always comes through for me, I should have known to just hold on and He would show me the way. This is amazing. Thank you again

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  238. What a wonderful response to same day prayer to God! Thank-you Mark for leading through lament to praise.

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  239. Thank you, thank you, thank you! This spoke to me so clearly. I am sitting here in tears because I felt there was no answer to what was happening to me and you showed me the way through the darkness. Thank you for allowing God to use you t reach so many of us that feel lost and forgotten.

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  240. Thank you so much for your insight into lamenting. I am learning so much through BSF.

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  241. Thank you BSF for this beautiful insight into the importance of lamenting and the process of how to effectively lament.

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  242. Well well. Thankyou for this message. It’s amazing how we be going through similar situations of despair, seeking to be answered. Then God uses someone else to answer you. I thank God for Mark’s message. It’s timely.

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  243. Yes perfect ,lament ultimately leads to rejoice & praising God as progressive revelation of Gods word comforts & restores when going thro trials
    This will be a ongoing Spirit driven journey growing in faith & growing in relationship with God with eternity in my heart

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  244. Thank you for sharing the deep truths of lament. It was a great reminder that we can honestly come before the throne with our laments and our Father hears us even if it’s only a groan in pain.

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  245. I really needed to read this blog right now because I am so worried & sad about my long time best friend who is going through some serious medical issues. I needed to find a way to be honest with Our Lord, to come boldly before Him , to complain, to ask Bodily for His Help, to Trust in Him ! Thank You I really needed to read this today!!!

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  246. These days, the Lord is direct ing my reading to Lamentations to Praise.
    How wonderful we can be honest to Our God as to how we feel anf from the depth s of our doubt , we can rise again to Praise!

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  247. Thank you for sharing . Wonderful advice and encouragement..

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